Digital content creator and communications trainer Trophy Kiprono has opened up about why she does not intend to get married, saying she does not consider herself a wife material because of her outspoken personality and lack of tolerance.
Speaking during a conversation with Jagero, Trophy questioned the expectations placed on women in marriage, particularly within African culture, where wives are often expected to be submissive and accommodating.
She explained that she does not identify with the traditional description of a wife material, arguing that such expectations would be difficult for her to meet.
“I do not want to get married because personally I am not a wife material,” she said.
According to Trophy, African culture defines a wife material as a woman who submits, does not question things and accepts certain situations without challenging them.
“According to the African culture, a wife material is someone who submits, someone who does not question anything; a wife material is someone who is okay with somethings,” she explained.
Trophy says she is outspoken and intolerant
The social media personality further described herself as outspoken and bold, qualities she believes could make it difficult for her to fit into the traditional expectations of marriage.
She admitted that she is not patient or tolerant, adding that she does not possess some of the qualities she believes are necessary to sustain a marriage.
“I am outspoken, I am bold, I am not patient, I am not tolerant, and you know marriage is 10 per cent love; the rest is tolerance and forgiveness, and I do not have that,” Kiprono stated.
She suggested that recognising her shortcomings was better than entering a marriage where she might struggle to meet her partner’s expectations.
“Why would I intentionally ruin someone’s child? At least I have admitted that I am not a wife material,” she added.
Trophy questions how marriage benefits women
During the conversation, Trophy also raised questions about what women gain from marriage, challenging the idea that getting married should automatically be a goal for every woman.
“How does marriage benefit women?” she posed.
Her remarks centred on the expectations women face when considering marriage, particularly the pressure to be submissive, patient and forgiving.
Trophy’s comments offer her perspective on marriage and traditional gender roles, with her decision reflecting her belief that she should not enter an institution whose expectations she feels she cannot fulfil.
