A video of Ugandan socialite and businesswoman Zari Hassan kneeling before her husband, Shakib Cham Lutaaya, has gone viral.
The video has sent the internet into a frenzy, reigniting one of social media’s favourite debates: culture versus modernity in marriage.
Why did Zari kneel before Shakib?
In the clip, Zari and another elegantly dressed woman are seen kneeling in what appears to be a home setting.
Zari knelt after the first woman, laughing warmly as she greeted Shakib and hugged him.
He then fed her a piece of fruit before the two shared a kiss, and the couple later settled into a cosy moment with Zari sitting on his lap.
Kneeling to greet a husband or elders is a deeply rooted practice in certain Ugandan communities, particularly among the Baganda.
Known as okufukamira, the custom is widely associated with respect, humility, and communal values. For many Ugandans, it carries no negative connotation; it is simply how affection and reverence are shown within a household.
What made this particular moment go viral is Zari’s profile. At 46, she is one of the most recognisable figures in East African entertainment and business, and the sight of her embracing such a traditional gesture prompted sharp reactions on both sides of the debate.
Netizens debate the act
Supporters of Zari’s gesture described it as a beautiful expression of love, with many praising her for remaining connected to her cultural roots despite her wealth and public status.
Critics, however, questioned whether such customs belong in modern marriages, with some users raising issues of gender equality and submission.
Here is what people had to say online:
Pauline Odera:
“When God will grant me a husband…I will do more than this! Watu wa hizo ni ufala hii sio yenu”
David Joshua:
“Kenyan ladies think this is AI”
Oloo Pundo:
“Now show us another picture behind the camera tuone…..”
På Tø:
“Do you think after 35 years I would still be young? I want to risk”
Alvic Omondi:
“Diamond still tops”
Grace John:
“Thats Ugandan culture women greet men while on their knees”
Anointed Salma Chef:
“I see nothing wrong here…at least we still have some people who are still deeply rooted in their culture and it’s beautiful”
The video emerged against the backdrop of reported difficulties in Zari and Shakib’s relationship, with the couple said to have navigated some turbulent months before this moment surfaced.
Whether this signals a settled chapter for the pair remains to be seen, but for now, Zari’s kneeling gesture has given the internet plenty to discuss.
