Media personality Caroline Mutoko has shared a candid message with young Africans preparing to leave the continent, urging them to understand the laws, responsibilities and cultural differences they will encounter abroad.
Speaking to young people heading to countries including the US on Sunday, October 4, 2026, Canada, the UK, Singapore, Malaysia and Japan, Mutoko said there are conversations they must have before boarding the plane.
Understand consent
Mutoko particularly challenged young men to understand consent, warning that behaviour they may get away with at home could have serious consequences abroad.
“She can kiss you and say no, and that’s where you stop,” she said, stressing that consent can be withdrawn at any point.
Mutoko added that young men should stop if a woman changes her mind, says no or is too intoxicated to meaningfully consent.
“Your disappointment is yours to manage. Grow up. Okay? But stop,” she said.
She also encouraged young people to carry condoms, noting that they can help prevent sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancies.
Mutoko warned that having a child abroad can bring significant financial and legal responsibilities, urging young people to think carefully before making decisions that could affect their future.
Know the law and your visa
Mutoko also advised young Africans to familiarise themselves with the laws of the country they are moving to, as well as the conditions attached to their student visas.
“Read your student visa. Actually read it,” she said, urging students to know whether they can work, how many hours they are allowed to work and what happens if they stop attending university.
She cautioned students against assuming that because their friends can engage in certain behaviour, they can do the same without consequences.
Stay true to yourself
Beyond the legal advice, Mutoko encouraged young Africans not toabandon their identity while trying to fit into a new environment.
“You are allowed to be exactly who you are and still evolve,” she said.
She urged students to make friends, travel, date, laugh and enjoy their university years while remembering why they left home.
“Don’t confuse belonging with abandoning yourself,” Mutoko said, reminding young people that they are adults and must act accordingly.
