Radio presenter and stand-up comedian Sande Bush, widely known as Dr Ofweneke, has warned men against dismissing their partners’ words as mere jokes or pranks, emphasising that women are intelligent, thoughtful, and highly calculative.
Speaking during a radio show on Tuesday, January 20, 2026, Ofweneke said that men often make the mistake of overlooking the meaning behind a woman’s words.
He stressed that if a woman shows contempt or makes a pointed statement, it is likely something she has thought about carefully.
”Wanaume, mpenzi wako asikuonyeshe madharau kisha aseme ni prank ama joke, anamaanisha na ashafikiria hicho kitu kwa muda. Women never say anything by mistake or as a joke, lazima ukuwe careful akiongea. anything a woman says when angry or as a joke,” Ofweneke said.
He added that women do not say things by mistake or coincidence.
“Women are very intelligent, thoughtful and very calculative, and women have come to know that the only to destroy a man is not through anything but through words,” he added.
“When a woman threatens you, in her mind, she has already actualised it.”
Ofweneke also highlighted the power of a woman’s words in relationships, urging men to be careful and keen.
“You must learn to study the language of a woman, women do not say things by jokes or by coincidence or by mistake. You must be very careful and very keen,” Ofweneke stated.
Ofwenke on why men change
In a previous piece of relationship advice, he shared his insights into why men sometimes change during relationships, outlining four key reasons that can affect romance and commitment.
According to Dr Ofweneke, the first reason is that some relationships start with lust rather than love.
“It wasn’t love, it was lust. I got what I wanted, now the honey has become ordinary. I realised my heart was not really there; it was just because of lust,” he explained.
In such cases, initial attraction fades once physical or emotional desires are satisfied.
The second reason she highlighted is that some men stay in relationships not out of genuine love, but because they do not want to see their partner with someone else. This behaviour, he noted, can lead to detachment over time as the relationship becomes more about control than affection.
