The biggest mistake is to think that communication in relationships is simple communication. Yes, I know that many people refer to relationships as “intimate,” but don’t we have different kinds of relationships?
Communication can mean different things to each of us. My favorite way to describe it is “getting information right to other people.” Do you experience something when you successfully pass on information and the person understands it? I do.
What I like best about communication in relationships is that it works for every type of relationship. Friendships, work relationships, love relationships, family relationships – the list is endless.
There are several reasons why people refuse to communicate much with others.
One important reason is that even after intensive communication, things don’t work out. But do all things always have to go well?
There is this ease that comes with communicating with or without lies. Well, as long as you can keep up with the lies. But I fail miserably at lying because I always forget the lies. Imagine how ridiculous that is.
More importantly for me, I feel refreshed knowing that I can always just speak my mind. And if the other person doesn’t get it? Then I explain it again. That just makes everything real and true.
I believe that good communication builds social skills and especially self-confidence. Of course, since there are always two or more people involved, you have to speak up. People can’t read minds.
It’s not news that romantic relationships are broken off because the partners don’t understand each other. Aside from the emotional damage it can do, it affects our ability to trust people.
When partners say, “I just didn’t understand them,” I don’t think that’s a good enough reason to end the relationship. The people involved simply refused to communicate with each other. You would be shocked at the very funny reasons people end relationships.
I was once in a relationship with someone and never understood them. In fact, in that case, I gave it my all in terms of communication, but he didn’t. So the relationship just ended.
Effective communication should not be forced. People should not have to force their partners to talk in certain situations. It should come naturally. That’s the reason to be in a relationship in the first place.
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