Kenyan singer Wahu Kagwi has reflected on how work commitments, phone use and competition for parental attention can influence how children experience love at home.
In a post shared on Instagram on Thursday, October 15, 2026, the mother of three offered her thoughts on parenting, suggesting that children may not always understand love in the same way adults do.
Wahu argued that a child’s sense of being loved could be shaped by how accessible their parents are and whether they receive attention without having to compete for it.
Children need access to their parents
In her reflection, Wahu suggested that children may struggle to measure love objectively because of their young age. Instead, she believes they often judge it through the attention and availability they receive from their parents.
“Children dont measure love objectively ,their young minds may struggle to. they measure access,” she wrote.
According to the singer, children are more likely to feel loved when they can approach their parents freely and receive attention without feeling they must fight for it.
Her observation places emphasis on the everyday interactions between parents and children, including being available to listen, spend time together and respond to their needs.
Work, phones and sibling competition
Wahu also highlighted some of the things that can make children feel they are competing for their parents’ attention.
She mentioned work, excessive phone use and other siblings as possible distractions that could affect a child’s experience of parental love.
“So The more a child feels they have free access to you is equal to them have attention that they don’t feel like they need to fight/compete for, (compete against your work, your doom scrolling, or even other siblings) the more likely they are likely to feel loved, just for being them,” she added.
Invites parents to share their views
Wahu acknowledged that her observations came from personal research into parenting, describing the reflection as her late-night thoughts.
“Ive been doing a lot of research around parenting lately,” she wrote before inviting her followers to weigh in on the subject.
“What dyu guys think?” she asked.
Her post has highlighted the role of parental availability in children’s emotional experiences, encouraging a wider conversation about how everyday habits can shape family relationships.
